If there’s one thing we all hate, it’s FIGHTING! Can’t we all just get along? Not only do arguments consume an inordinate amount of time, but they often prevent you from truly focusing on improving your lives tog...ether. That being said, it’s still hard to know HOW to stop…
Here are our 5 tips to stop fighting:
1. Determine what you’re REALLY fighting aboutWe’ve all fought about stupid, small stuff before. When you’re shouting at the top of your lungs “I CAN’T BELIEVE YOU FORGOT TO BRING IN THE NEWSPAPER THIS MORNING!” – chances are good there’s something deeper going on. Are you feeling overwhelmed by all the chores to do around the house? Are you annoyed that they’ve forgotten to do a lot of other things lately? The first and most important tip is to zero-in on the true root cause of your frustration.
2. Don’t hold it inside forever – tell them!
Nothing good comes from bottling up your anger and pushing it further and further down inside. Not only will your partner continue the behaviour that’s bothering you, but they’ll actually think you’re happy. Don’t let your suppressed emotions explode when you least expect it; speak your mind and deal with it together in the moment.
3. Be empathetic
Is your partner under a deadline at work? Have they been feeling ill lately? Are there issues with their family or friends? Being sensitive to their current circumstances will greatly minimize stress-induced fights. Now, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t bring up important issues but having heightened awareness should help you decide the most opportune time.
4. Remove ego
Fights are prolonged by stubbornness. If you both refuse to hear each other’s sides, you’ll be doomed to argue in circles forever. Show your maturity by accepting responsibility for your actions and say, “I’m truly sorry for what I did. Let’s talk about how we can move past this together.”
5. Keep things in perspective
The next time you’re embroiled in a heated argument, think, just for a moment, about all of the strife and heartache that exists in our world. Is this fight really meaningful in the grand scheme of things? I’m not suggesting all your issues together are insignificant—some fights can lead to meaningful relationship progress. But keeping in perspective the awe-inspiring beauty of life may help you measure what’s truly important.See More
Here are our 5 tips to stop fighting:
1. Determine what you’re REALLY fighting aboutWe’ve all fought about stupid, small stuff before. When you’re shouting at the top of your lungs “I CAN’T BELIEVE YOU FORGOT TO BRING IN THE NEWSPAPER THIS MORNING!” – chances are good there’s something deeper going on. Are you feeling overwhelmed by all the chores to do around the house? Are you annoyed that they’ve forgotten to do a lot of other things lately? The first and most important tip is to zero-in on the true root cause of your frustration.
2. Don’t hold it inside forever – tell them!
Nothing good comes from bottling up your anger and pushing it further and further down inside. Not only will your partner continue the behaviour that’s bothering you, but they’ll actually think you’re happy. Don’t let your suppressed emotions explode when you least expect it; speak your mind and deal with it together in the moment.
3. Be empathetic
Is your partner under a deadline at work? Have they been feeling ill lately? Are there issues with their family or friends? Being sensitive to their current circumstances will greatly minimize stress-induced fights. Now, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t bring up important issues but having heightened awareness should help you decide the most opportune time.
4. Remove ego
Fights are prolonged by stubbornness. If you both refuse to hear each other’s sides, you’ll be doomed to argue in circles forever. Show your maturity by accepting responsibility for your actions and say, “I’m truly sorry for what I did. Let’s talk about how we can move past this together.”
5. Keep things in perspective
The next time you’re embroiled in a heated argument, think, just for a moment, about all of the strife and heartache that exists in our world. Is this fight really meaningful in the grand scheme of things? I’m not suggesting all your issues together are insignificant—some fights can lead to meaningful relationship progress. But keeping in perspective the awe-inspiring beauty of life may help you measure what’s truly important.See More
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